How many of you have asked this question of your child in anticipation of a lovely conversation, only to be answered by a brusque: “Fine!” before they clumpf off to their room?

In my maaaany diverse readings, I somehow dimly remember advice on how to ask the type of questions that would provoke (I use this word in a positive sense!) a response consisting of more than a one syllable grunt. The child actually has to think about a reply.

I have used some of these questions to gauge how the child’s day was when I collect them for their tutoring sessions or simply to elicit conversation. 

Some questions to ask…

  1. Tell me something good that happened today.
  2. Who did you help today at school?
  3. What fun thing happened during break?
  4. What was the most enjoyable / least enjoyable thing that happened today?
  5. Who sat next to you in class?
  6. Did you share anything with someone today?
  7. What life lesson did you learn today?
  8. Name one interesting thing that you heard at school today (try not to entertain gossip)
  9. If you could change one thing about school / your class / your subject what would it be?
  10. Who got into trouble today and how was it resolved?
  11. What do you like about your teacher?
  12. What was the most challenging thing you faced today?
  13. Who is the nicest person in your class?
  14. Are there children who are mean and what do they do?
  15. What did you learn that was useful?
  16. What are you grateful for?





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